I used to think that we determined our happiness, that it is within our control to grasp and tackle. Lately I haven’t been too sure that this is the way everything works. You don’t get to dictate the obstacles placed in your life that lead to the throbbing unhappiness. It’s completely out of your control. So how you get happy? If gnomes are constantly thrown at your feet as soon as you find your landing. Life is just too hard.